pasta fucks
I believe they call themselves “Italians”
finish this sentence: im gonna f
inish this sentence: im gonna f
inish this sentence: im gonna f
inish this sentence: im gonna f
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“Not everyone will appreciate what you do for them. You have to figure out who’s worth your kindness and who’s just taking advantage of you.”— Unknown
a super easy & quick self compassion practice is to put your hand on your heart (if you want) and say to yourself something like “this is a moment of suffering. may i be kind to myself.” that’s sort of the classic statement but i say variations on the following:
“this is really hard. i’m so sorry you’re suffering.”
“i know you’re doing the best you can.”
“let’s take care ourselves. what do you need?”
“you can do this, one thing at a time.”
“i’m here with you. we’re gonna take care of ourselves.”
“it’s okay to make mistakes! you’re learning & growing.”
y’all get the idea. these are parts of the self speaking to each other, not distinct personalities in my case, but you can phrase it or frame the dynamic in whatever way works for you. when we practice speaking with the caregiver voice, it comes more naturally and becomes more integrated over time.
Fun things to say when someone tells you they’re going to go to the bathroom:
- Stay safe
- Congratulations
- That’s what they all say
- Different strokes for different folks
- I hope you have the time of your life
- But you have so much to live for
- Please explain
to-dance-beneath-the-diamond-sky:
Friendly reminder that 1200 calories is the recommended amount for a 5 year old
this hit me.
another fact is that 500 calories isn’t even enough for a new born.
why did I go so long convinced that going over 500 in a day was the end of the world?
Another friendly reminder that the United States used 1,000 calorie diets as torture for political prisoners and justified it using the diet industry.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/04/17/bush-torture-memos-commer_n_188190.html
In a footnote to a May 10, 2005, memorandum from the Office of Legal Council, the Bush attorney general’s office argued that restricting the caloric intake of terrorist suspects to 1000 calories a day was medically safe because people in the United States were dieting along those lines voluntarily.
“While detainees subject to dietary manipulation are obviously situated differently from individuals who voluntarily engage in commercial weight-loss programs, we note that widely available commercial weight-loss programs in the United States employ diets of 1000 kcal/day for sustain periods of weeks or longer without requiring medical supervision,” read the footnote. “While we do not equate commercial weight loss programs and this interrogation technique, the fact that these calorie levels are used in the weight-loss programs, in our view, is instructive in evaluating the medical safety of the interrogation technique.”
Another another friendly reminder that the Minnesota Starvation Experiment subjected adult men who were VOLUNTEERS to 1,560 calorie diets and the psychological effects were so profound that one volunteer cut three of his own fingers off and could not remember why.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minnesota_Starvation_Experiment
These men were volunteers who knew exactly what they would be going through and when it would end, and who believed they were doing it for a good and moral reason (the research was used to help rehabilitate victims of starvation and famine at the end of WWII).
And these are the things we are expected to engage in FOREVER to stay at a “healthy” weight.
Reading about the Minnesota Starvation experiment was my wake-up call. It was what kicked me out of my eating disorder. The guy missing three fingers, whatever his name was, he was the last straw for me.
Scared me so fucking bad I stopped restricting my food that day, and never went back to it.
Just bringin’ this back around like I sometimes do.
Wow. This really hit me hard.
EAT
Fun fact– calorie restriction exacerbates symptoms of pretty much *every* mental illness.
Anorexia has ~16% mortality rate, slightly higher than acted upon suicidal ideation. It’s more lethal than actively trying to kill oneself and this is why.
my skills include reading an entire page of an academic text without absorbing a single word
